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Femme

While a person who identifies as femme does not have to be a woman or female-identified, this title is explicitly for queer people. This title can apply within any gender identity or sexual orientation, such as trans-men or women, genderqueer people, and cis-gendered people. Thus, contrary to popular belief, the title femme doesn't reinforce the gender binary but can work within and without it. A Femme identified person doesn't always have to be dressing or acting "traditionally feminine" (meaning a feminine aesthetic such as wearing makeup, heals, and numerous accessories) but also has to do with behaviors, interactions, political views, etc. Although it orginated from the dichotomous relationship between Butch and Femme, Femme is an "independent, autonomous gender expression" which doesn't need masculinity to help define it or attract them sexually, since Femme on Femme relationships are possible .

Femme Gender Identity

Femme as a gender identity specifically moves to provide a more accurate picture of specific nonbinary people's identity as it relates to femininity without taking on the labeling themselves as being a trans-woman. Additionally, femme as a gender identity usually denotes that an individual who is, "non-binary or queer femme gender specifically and inherently addresses Femmephobia and the systematic devaluation of femininity as part of their politics"

Historical Origins:

Butch vs. Femme

The femme identity was originally rooted from the butch/femme roles that were created within hegemonic relationships in which the butch partner takes on a "masculine" role while the femme partner takes on a "feminine" role. Contrary to the popular belief that hegemonic nature of their relationships caused them to be less erotic and to represent a mirror to heterosexual couples, these identities were considered "complex erotic and social statements" which are rooted in "gendered erotic identities" The term butch & femme came out of the lesbian feminist movements and bars in the 1940s. Butch & femme as a “dynamic-duo” is when lesbians perform and embody the traditional stereotypes of cisgender-heterosexual couplings. This first convergence of the gender identity, gender roles, and sexual expressions challenged what women can be seen as and how femininity is recognized. Specifically the femme identity gave the idea that women did not have to orient their sexuality around men. Instead the radical rethinking of sexual liberation for women was starting to be born.

Emergence of Queer Theory & Gender Politics

Postmodernism and queer theory began “to examine the limits of not just gender itself, but the ways the concept of gender is defined, constrained, mandated, and rectified within the cultural discourse. And also the ways it can be reclaimed and re-signified.” In modern contexts and the increasing awareness of femme invisibility,“the attention paid to the butch figure has been heavily critiqued by an emerging queering of femininity” These new frameworks and perspectives allowed queer individuals to look at gender and expression in a whole new way in the context of the butch and femme identities, and begin to expand their individual possibilities and understandings of the terms along with the ideas of gender role play in general.

Collective Identity

Emotional Labor & Self Care

Taking on the title of a femme not only suggests how one might behave or present themselves, but also actions that are taken and how these individuals relate to the world. "Femme is connected to emotional labor and healing. It’s based on the energy you put into the world, the connection you make with people and the care you have for them. It’s allowing a particular kind of tenderness to be part of your identity." Furthermore, femme have the unique ability to find power and strength in highlighting and appreciating their "feminine" behaviors and characteristics such as self-care and putting in emotional labor and creating/maintaining relationships.

Femme vs. Femininity

Femme is a more radical way to practice inclusive feminism and has come about particularly in response to traditional feminism. Traditional Feminism, refers to the idea that women should be made equal to men and that there should be no differences in the ways that we evaluate people and that femininity and masculinity are social constructs. Modern Feminism accepts that women and men inherently have differences, but moves to say that neither of these differences should have a superior value added but to instead celebrate the differences. Femmes choose to believe that their is no gender-binary and that people can fall anywhere within the gender spectrum resulting in the possibility to be gender-less, gender-fluid, femme, or masculine or center. Femmes believe that misogyny is used not only against women to inflict violence but primarily against femme identified people. Femme's also acknowledge toxic masculinity, and the ability of the patriarchy to not only negatively effect female-identified people but men as well. More specifically femme is combining feminist ideas to self-empowering actions.

Femmephobia & Invisibility

Femmephobia, specifically refers to the devaluation and violence inflicted on those who are perceived as femme across gender identities or sexual orientation. Femmephobia is reinforced by trans-misogyny, effemimania, femi-negativity, and trans-phobia. The bottom line is that Femmephobia can be perpetrated by any person of any gender identity or sexual expression. Woman-Identified Femme's often mention having their authenticity of queerness questioned, and having feelings of invisibility within queer spaces. This is because often times Femmes are seen by other queers as fitting perfectly within the hegemonic society's framework.