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Compulsive Talking
[edit]Compulsive talking (or talkahlosim) is verbally expressing with words that simply go beyond the means of what is considered in society to be socially acceptable. These talkaholics are unaware of the extent to which they are talking, are unable to stop the flow of words, or do not see the excess amount of talking to be a problem. Compulsive talkers fail to accurately read social cues or are highly verbal and talkative. The main factors to determine whether someone is a compulsive talker is speaking in a continuous manner without a pause. Compulsive talking appears to be linked with the inability to manage social anxiety and are limited to the focus of communication studies. It has been addressed as the need for identifying and defining the term of over communicating. It can be a sign of anxiety or it a sign of an inconsiderate, narcissistic person.This anxiety could be brought from a uncomfortable interaction or an avoidance of feelings they are not willing to communicate about.
Characteristics
[edit]Compulsive talking has a variety of symptoms and characteristics to identify if someone possesses this. Many studies have been done that link compulsive talking to be a sign of a serious mental illness. [1] A compulsive talker simply talks at you rather than engaging in a conversation with you. They appear to be communicating effectively from an outsiders view, but compulsive talkers are simply doing the opposite as they are unable to engage with another person. According to Pegasus NLP, there are 6 characteristics that these compulsive talkers possess.[2]
- Compulsive talkers first trap one in a conversation, this person must now listen. Since they don't bother with different social preliminaries, they will display the ability to talk without often times hesitating. These talkaholics are able to control the conversation picking any topic they wish.
- Talkaholics often times do not pause to take a breath or to think of the next topic they want to share. Instead, these pauses are replaced with filler words such as, "another thing" or "whats more..." or sometimes noises to ensure they can continue to talk and carry the conversation.
- Often times, if another manages to interrupt the flow or start speaking, compulsive talkers have a fall back strategy of disengaging in what the other is communicating about to which a pause in the conversation will occur and they will in turn regain the verbal speech.
- Compulsive talkers have no interest and or feelings for the listener. This is important due to if they have any interest in what the listener has to say, it could simply effect their entire approach of communication.
- Ignoring feedback from their audience is another key characteristic in excessive talkers. While there is both verbal and non verbal feedback in a conversation to know whether or not the listener is engaged, a compulsive talker only focuses on transmitting what is on their mind at the moment.
- Compulsive talkers often times have the ability to zone in on those who are too polite to hurt their feelings by excusing themselves from the conversation or walking away. According to the NLP, these "nice people" are referred to as "Compulsive Rapporters" as they are unable to rapport with people due to the fact they want to be liked by everyone.
Related Disabilites
[edit]Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder
[edit]Attention Deficit Hyperactive disorder or ADHD is one of the main disabilities related to the symptoms of compulsive talking. Due to the hyperactivity and impulsitivity closely recognized with ADHD, compulsive talking is made up of the combination of these two distinct traits. Failure to accurately read social cues or simply being highly verbal and talkative is often seen with this type of disability.
Anxiety
[edit]Anxiety is closely related to excessive speech. When dealing with anxiety, individuals often times are uncomfortable with breaks when carrying a conversation so in turn they carry a nonstop monologue to break that silence.
Bipolar Disorder
[edit]One manic symptom often found in bipolar disorder is compulsive talking. During this manic phase, a person has an inflated sense of superiority towards another and that what they are saying is more important and interesting. This gives one endless energy to continue talking without a pause. Due to this mania, it can impair a persons social judgement that would make them unaware that they are talking for a extended amount of time making the situation uncomfortable for others.
Talkaholic Scale
[edit]The Talkaholic scale is a ten-item Likert-type model designed by James C. McCroskey and Virginia P. Richmond in 1993 to help identify those who are compulsive talkers.[3] This advanced method helps individuals to become aware of their tendencies who have a compulsive and consistent manner when it comes to over-communicating. When measuring compulsive communication and is appeared by many to be a quantitative description but in fact is a qualitative reference. With this scale, a score of 40 above would indicate one to be a true talkaholic. This instrument is simply unidimensional as it has a strong face validity and has been proven useful for future research.
Consequences and Management
[edit]Compulsive talking can have serious consequences when it comes to social interaction. Relating back to the characteristics, talking incessantly can drive people away due to the lack of interest they have for anyone other than themselves. When people identify a lack of respect such as interruption in a conversation, it can lead to that person having no social support.
According to Mark Goulston, a business psychiatrist, to ensure you are giving one's conversation partner equal verbal time, it is important to recognize the three stages in regards to managing excessive talking when speaking to other people.[4]
- The Business Stage: on task, concise and relevant.
- The Feel Good Stage: using talking as a tension relief, not realizing the other person is not listening.
- The Off-Track Attempt to Recover Stage: Instead of re-engaging by listening, one impulse talks in a effort to regain interest from your conversation partner.
Along with recognizing these three stages, to learn to stay silent it is important to treat it as a competition. With impulsive and excessive talkers, often times they answer their own question in fear of a break in the conversation. In relation to this, treating silence as a competition in the means of if one must wait in silence no matter how long until someone in the group will speak. When this occurs, they will then continue to do the work that is necessary to lead the conversation.
See Also
[edit]References
[edit]https://www.sanluisobispo.com/living/family/linda-lewis-griffith/article39079548.html[5]
https://digitalcommons.unomaha.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1200&context=studentwork[6]
- ^ "Excessive talking could be sign of serious mental illness". Herald and News. Retrieved 2018-12-09.
- ^ "Figure 4.5 Make the effort and get involved: Volunteer!". dx.doi.org. Retrieved 2018-12-09.
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- ^ Tribune, Linda Lewis Griffith-Special to The. "How to deal with a compulsive talker". sanluisobispo. Retrieved 2018-12-08.
- ^ digitalcommons.unomaha.edu https://digitalcommons.unomaha.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1200&context=studentwork. Retrieved 2018-12-08.
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