Financial domination
Financial domination (also known as findom) is a fetish lifestyle in which a financial submissive desires to give gifts or money to a financial dominant.
Overview
[edit]In this lifestyle, in particular a practice of dominance and submission, a submissive (cash piggy, finsub, human ATM, money slave or paypig) gives gifts and money to a financial dominant (findomme/findom, Goddess, money dom/money domme, money master/money mistress or cashmaster).[1][2][3] Participants in financial domination can be of any gender but in practice the dominant person is more likely a woman, and the submissive is almost always a man. Financial domination became more widespread and took on its current form after the introduction of the Internet.[4] The relationship between the two parties (including paying) often takes place solely via online communication. Moneydoms present themselves on their own websites, relevant web portals or social networks.[5]
In the majority of cases the two never meet, since findom is primarily a form of "distance domination". In rare exceptions, the submissive may accompany the dominant while the dominant shops with the submissive's money. Financial domination is in some cases combined with other BDSM practices.[6] Such a relationship between individuals may be similar to, yet clearly distinguishable from, relationships based on total power exchange. In the latter, the submissive may grant all their money saved and earned to the dominant, in addition to many other aspects of their autonomy; however, it is not uncommon for both partners to have an intimate relationship as well, which is contrary to the financial domination dynamic. Financial domination can also be distinguished from sugar baby relationships in which a sugar daddy/mama offers gifts and money to the "baby" in return for a relationship, generally without any explicit elements of domination. In financial domination, the submissive has no expectation of sexual contact in return for the money, and often there is no physical contact of any kind between the two parties.[7]
It is often said[by whom?] that the money slave has to limit himself to the subsistence level and has no right to receive anything in return.[8] One element of financial domination is the dominant humiliating the submissive and establishing superiority over the submissive. Many members of the findom scene are matriarchists who claim that women are superior to men.[9]
Reception
[edit]Since 2013, numerous articles about financial domination have appeared in popular print media and online magazines. Some of them are just reports; the authors of the others subject the phenomenon to a critical examination. Some of these authors question whether financial domination is actually a sexual preference. The majority of money slaves have low self esteem and are insecure in dealing with women. Also, the first contact with a moneydom comes about purely by chance, for example when surfing on BDSM sites or when looking for financial services (by using search terms as financial or money). Over time, paying becomes an addiction for many, which in the worst case can lead to financial ruin. This in turn has three reasons. First, the ready availability of financial domination over the Internet. Second, the targeted manipulation by the women. Many of them are not aware of their great responsibility. Thirdly, the fact that psychological dependence is wanted by both sides and is even essential for financial domination.[10][11][12][13]
Other authors do not consider money slavery to be pathological and see it as an inclination that one can live out responsibly. [14][15][16][17] However, some point to the high risk of deception and fraud. With many moneydom accounts (for example on Twitter) it is unclear who is really behind it. There are proven cases of fraud. In addition, many women would become money mistresses for purely financial reasons, without having any relation to dominance. Both are subsumed under the term fake in the findom scene.[18][19][20][21] However, some money slaves are said to accept the deception or even to be aroused by it.[22]
Scientific papers about findom were published in 2007 and 2021. For both, relevant websites and social media accounts were observed over a period of several years (see Netnography). In addition to special questions, such as self-justification and dealing with social rejection, both articles deal with the general characterization of money slavery. On the whole, the picture drawn in the popular media is confirmed and three things are also highlighted. First, the Internet has fundamentally changed the market for sexual services. Those involved could communicate more easily and, above all, anonymously, and real encounters are no longer necessary in many practices. Second, digital networks offer new (and vastly better) ways for people with dissenting inclinations or views to share, connect, and develop identities as a group. Third, anyone can create an artificial identity on the Internet that has little to do with the real person. All three were prerequisites for the emergence of the findom scene. For the author of the first study, this is a postmodern phenomenon, the authors of the second article compare the appearances of moneydoms with those of influencers.[23][24]
See also
[edit]References
[edit]- ^ Nick Chester (2013-07-02). "Financial Domination Is a Very Expensive Fetish". Vice. Retrieved 2016-01-29.
- ^ Dan Savage (2022-01-11): Savage Love. Hard for the Money, theStranger. Retrieved 2022-05-03.
- ^ Jenny Haward (2022-02-06): I've made millions as a Financial Dominatrix, Newsweek. Retrieved 2023-04-20.
- ^ Jyoti Mann (2022-08-13): A findomme reveals the secrets of financial domination and findom 'wallet drains', Business Insider. Retrieved 2023-04-20.
- ^ Jyoti Mann (2022-08-13): A findomme reveals the secrets of financial domination and findom 'wallet drains', Business Insider. Retrieved 2023-04-20.
- ^ Abby Ellin (2015-02-18). "Yes, There Is Such a Thing as a 'Financial Dominatrix,' and It's as Bizarre as You Think". Observer. Retrieved 2016-01-29.
- ^ Alison Stevenson (2013-11-07). "I Went to a Class to Learn How to Financially Dominate Men". Vice. Retrieved 2018-05-22.
- ^ Dayna McAlpine (2022-10-14). People can`t afford their findom kink in the cost of living crisis., Mashable. Retrieved 2022-12-02
- ^ Maria Yagoda (2017-02-03). Inside the Strange, Sexual "Female Supremacy" Movement, Vice. Retrieved 2022-05-05.
- ^ N.N. (2008-07-21). Financial-Domination-support-group, LiveJournal. Retrieved 2022-12-02, linked in the german version.
- ^ Chuck Petko (2015-10-21). Free Yourself from Cash Slavery, Vice. Retrieved. 2022-11-14
- ^ N.N. (2019-04-24) Online Findom And The Addiction Enablers, Mediavsreality. No longer available.
- ^ N.N. (2020-06-03) Confessions of a Man Addicted To Financial Domination Archived 2021-11-20 at the Wayback Machine, Cavemancircus, No longer available.
- ^ Mark D. Griffiths (2016-12-08). The Psychology of Financial Dominatrixes, Psychology Today. Retrieved 2022-11-14.
- ^ Susannah Breslin (2017-12-12). The Hustle of Financial Domination., Topic. Retrieved 2022-12-02.
- ^ Joe Cort (2019-10-03). The Growing World of Financial Domination, Psychology Today. Retrieved 2022-11-14
- ^ Jack Ramage (2021-06-18). What is findom? We asked a dominatrix and a paypig to explain, Screenshot-Media. Retrieved 2022-11-14.
- ^ Hayley Jade (2018-04-28). Mastering the Art of Financial Domination Fetish Is Harder Than It Looks, Vice. Retrieved 2022-11-14.
- ^ N.N. (2018-09-12).The Curse of the Fake Financial Dominatrix, MEL Magazine. Retrieved 2022-11-14.
- ^ N.N. (2019-03-05).How social media is changing financial domination, Dazed. Retrieved 2022-11-14.
- ^ Said Abdelmahmood (2022-08-27). She Earned $34.000 In One Month Through Financial Domination., BuzzFeed.News. Retrieved 2022- 12-02.
- ^ N.N. (2019-05-29). Catfish Findom: The Fetishists Who Get Off on Getting Scammed, Gizmodo, Retrieved 2022-11-14.
- ^ Keith F. Durkin. Show Me the Money: Cybershrews and On-line Money Masochists, Deviant Behavior 28,4 (2007), pp. 355–378. Retrieved 2022-11-15.
- ^ Rosey McCracken und Belinda Brooks-Gordon. Findommes, Cybermediated Sex Work, and Rinsing, Sexuality Research and Social Policy 18 (2021), pp. 837–854. Retrieved 2022-11-15.