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What is a M.E.P.E.C. connection

What is the LaMiel Theory

The LaMiel Theory is about what to look for in order to have a complete connection when in a relationship or marriage. Created by a man named Brian Lamiell in 1991. This was introduced in a class while Brian was practicing psychology when introducing this to his clients. The theory consists of a physical, mental, emotional, energy, and cosmic (historical) connections. If you connect in all of these ways, you found your soul mate in life. You will have a M.E.P.E.C. connection. Pronounced (mepik) , which emphasizes a mega epic feeling. Mental, Emotional, Physical, Energy, and Cosmic connection.

We all look for that great connection and look for someone who can relate to us the most. We all look for a higher level of love and this shows you what to look for to get it. How do we become that magnetic attraction that we don’t eventually run from? Let’s break this down. The first thing we look at when finding that complete connection is…

• Mental- This has to do with the same business sense, education level, street smarts level, in order to be morally on the same page. This also has to do with the values and experiences. Do you and your partner enjoy mentally challenging games like chess, or even have those deep supporting conversations? Do you have the same religious beliefs? Even if you don’t have deep conversations together or have different religious beliefs, as long as you are on the same page matters when coming together mentally.

• Emotional- This has to do with how you react to your partner. How do you support, empathies, and react to certain situations with your partner. Are you fixated on the negative because of your past and how do we deal with this as a couple in a positive way. This is about how you reassure each other to reinforce the trust with your partner?

• Physical- Everyone wants that physical attraction in some way or another. Physical could be looks. It could be the way someone carries themselves. It could be as simple as how someone touches you physically and shows how they care by doing something that draws you to them. It is about knowing your love style? Is your communication style: acts of service, physical touch, words of affirmation, defensive communication, supportive communication, and/or spending time? Do you show you have boundaries and respect for each other? Physical can also be a part of giving love, knowing how to give to their partners needs, in order to receive it. Opposites do not attract unless it compliments your partner without creating resentment later on. If one partner cooks and the other doesn’t, this could be considered a complimentary trait. It would be more fun if both partners cook to add more excitement or attraction to the relationship. Physical may also be attractive qualities to be more dominant or submissive traits, or even how you kiss. This is about how my words and actions impact the person I am with.

• Energy- This has to do with how active you are or how often you do things together as oppose to relaxing together. Are you and your partner equally putting forth effort or equally active? Do you both work out, both like to travel, do you both love going to concerts, do you both paint and love selling art work or going to art shows, do you both like dressing up and go ballroom dancing, do you both like just cuddling watching a movie, or do you both love to sing karaoke even if you are not good at it? If you have the same energy level it is easier to get comfortable.

• Cosmic- This has to do with how you grew up and the past experiences you can relate to with your partner. This has to do with relating to each other’s life history. This is also known as a historical connection. Can you relate to growing up in a single parent environment as opposed to having both parents? Cosmic is focused on more unique situations of events that impact you like: both partners spent alone time reading in a tree as young adults before you met, both people can relate to a light house or beacon or an object before you met, you both have your stuffed animal growing up when you were 5 years old, you are both creative organizing a puppet show before you met, you both can relate to abusive situations you went through from your past before you met, you both got cheated on in the same year, both your cousins you grew up with are both 6 years younger than you, one person painted a painting of a place your other partner grew up in before you met, you were both at an event but never crossed paths, or you both have the same friends but never met, you both practiced mindfulness from a book you both read in a time of your life when you were not together, or you both dated someone before you met who is married and they never told you they were married, and now you can relate to that situation. A cosmic connection is more like you both people seem like you lived the same life while living separate lives, and now coming together. This is very rare to come across something this unique. These are all things you would never have in common with someone else which becomes that cosmic connection no one else can relate to or break.

Having this kind of connection will create those butterflies and that excitement to want to spend time with that person. You will click naturally with the person you belong with and it will be easier to fall in love, if you have all these aspects and connections in the relationship.