User:Tristessa de St Ange
Tristessa de St Ange
About me
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I'm Tristessa, a Wikipedia mediator and administrator from Brighton, United Kingdom. I first started editing Wikipedia as a registered user in December 2004 in my former incarnation. (In case you were wondering, my pseudonym on Wikipedia is a reference to a character from a Angela Carter novel, The Passion of New Eve.)
My work on Wikipedia predominantly revolves around WP:DR, both practically in helping to resolve disputes and researching improvements to Wikipedia dispute resolution methods:
- WP:MEDCAB (2005-): I once pretty much was the infamous Wikipedia:Mediation Cabal, being its former Coordinator; if you'd like the former Queen of the MedCab to help mediate somewhere, please do drop me a line.
- WP:MEDCOM (2011-): I'm a member (as of 2011) of the Wikipedia:Mediation Committee, mediating the official WP:RFM. The culture of the MedCom is very different from the MedCab. Nevertheless, the actual core of mediation does not change, no matter how the organisation conducting it is formed. (Consider a mediation process like a coatrack; it stops the coats falling on the floor, but putting a scruffy coat on a million-dollar coatrack does not make it become cashmere.) I believe that I will have useful skills to offer the MedCom and, whilst I am sure my fellow Committee members knew that my appointment would precede me making annoying suggestions of changes, I will be reasonably careful not to charge in too badly.
A word on personal differences As a person who is a gender-variant, pacifist, anarchocollectivist Buddhist, I tick many "minority" boxes. I have noticed on multiple occasions a phenomenon whereby the impending fear of an person's attributes being impugned is enough to create a reaction similar to as though they really had been subject to bigotry, hatred, or some similar fear. This is extremely common on Wikipedia. There is nothing wrong with wearing what makes us unique "on our sleeves"; as we are all unique, and our uniqueness is what really forms the core of the beauty to find in others. What is wrong is when we take what others wear on their sleeves to be a threat to our wearing of our things on our sleeves. The answer, put simply, is to wear a sleeveless shirt when your sleeve-badges are too precious to take out in public. Build up your confidence gradually; wear them at home; then with some close friends; then in places you feel comfortable; then throughout your life. Once you have learned to stop fearing yourself, you will no longer fear the perceptions of you by others. |
Wiki-philosophyWikipedia 5R A wiki is designed to be rewritten. Consequently, some code of behaviour is necessary to ensure that this takes place in a manner that leads to some kind of improvement versus constant argument. That code of behaviour is extremely simple:-
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Contacting meIf there's any way you think I might be able to help you, I'm entirely at your service. I don't bite... honest! (well, I try very hard not to)
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