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Blessing ceremony of the Unification Church

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Sun Myung Moon and his wife Hak Ja Han preside over a mass blessing ceremony.

The Holy Marriage Blessing Ceremony (축복결혼식), often abbreviated to Blessing, is a large-scale wedding, or a marriage rededication ceremony, sponsored by the Unification Church. It is given to married or engaged couples. Through it, members of the Unification Church believe that the couple is removed from the lineage of sinful humanity and engrafted into God's sinless lineage. As a result, the couple's marital relationship—and any children born after the Blessing—exist free from the consequences of original sin. (Children born into Blessed Central Families are known as Blessed Children or second generation, third generation, etc.)

For Unificationists, these interracial, interreligious and international mass marriage ceremonies symbolize the family as the hope for peace. The Blessing ceremony has become the most famous ritual of the Unification Church.[1] The people who receive the Blessing are called "Blessed Central Families (축복중심가정)" who are conducive to the establishment of Cheon Il Guk (천일국,天一國,the Kingdom of Heaven.)

Purpose

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Frank Kaufmann, a leading Unificationist scholar, wrote:

We do not have mass weddings because Reverend Moon doesn't know any better, doesn't know how Americans react to things, or that he stubbornly adheres to some odd Korean habit. Our matchings and weddings are a direct and perfect manifestation of a profound theology and world view. You see, Unificationists believe that all the problems on Earth, from the Gulf War, to child abuse, to the crumbling school system (you name it) are fruits of the fact that self-interest crept into the family, the love between husband and wife, reproductive affairs, and parent-child relationships, thus since the beginning there has never been even one family whose members were not dominated by some significant degree of self-interest.[2]

Scholars have noted the Blessing ceremony allows Unification Church members to express their belief in an international, inter-racial "family of God".[1][3] In the words of the Reverend Moon, he once described the meaning of the Marriage Blessing:

Then what is the ultimate reason why we need to do it? It is because our human ancestors fell. If our first ancestors had not fallen, it would not be necessary for us to receive the Blessing. But we have to reverse the fallen process. We have no other way to return to God's realm of authority than through a course that restores the fall. That is why human beings until now have pursued religion, for this is the direction and purpose of human history.[4]

History

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Blessings of Unification Church members

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The Blessing ceremony was first held in 1961 for 36 couples in Seoul, South Korea, by Sun Myung Moon and his wife Hak Ja Han, shortly after their own marriage in 1960. All the couples were members of the Unification Church. Moon matched all of the couples except the 12 who were already married to each other from before joining the Unification Church, which was officially founded in 1954.[5]

Later Blessing ceremonies were larger in scale but followed the same pattern with all participants Unification Church members and Moon matching most of the couples. In 1982 the first large scale Blessing held outside of Korea took place in Madison Square Garden in New York City. In 1988, Moon matched 2,500 Korean members with Japanese members for a Blessing ceremony held in Korea, partly in order to promote unity between the two nations.[6]

Most Unification Church members had lived communally and celibately after joining the church. After marriage they returned to the traditional Christian family form of monogamy. Blessing ceremonies have attracted attention in the press and in the public imagination, often being labeled "mass weddings". People who have never met, from completely different countries, were paired by the Messiah of the Unification Church by "matching". They were informed that a certain person, specially chosen for him/her by the Messiah, would become their husband/wife. Some of them did not see their future partner until the day of the Blessing ceremony.[7][8][9][10][11][12]

Some couples were already married and those that were engaged were later legally married according to the laws of their own countries.[10][11] Meant to highlight the church's emphasis on traditional morality, they brought Moon and the Unification Church both fame and controversy.[12]

Blessing extended to non-members

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The 1990s saw a big change when Rev. Moon allowed the Blessing to be given to other people besides Unification Church members. This liberalization led to a great increase in the number of Blessed couples, with most of them having been already married and not Unification Church members. It is possible for any Blessed couple to give the Blessing to other couples and this is being done in many cases by ministers of other churches who have received the Blessing though their association with the Unification Church. Ministers of other faiths, including Judaism and Islam have served as "co-officiators" at Blessing ceremonies presided over by Rev. and Mrs. Moon.[13] Since 2001 Unification Church member couples Blessed by Moon have been able to arrange marriages for their own children, without his direct guidance.[14]

Process

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Adult Unificationists (those who joined on their own without family ties) and Blessed Children (those whose parents received the Blessing of Marriage) each follow a similar yet distinct process in preparing for marriage, being matched (engaged) and finally receiving the Blessing.[15] Non-Unificationists (people of other faiths, nonreligious) who believe in the ideals of the church teachings can also be part of the Marriage Blessing. People who are already married are also welcome and can begin walking a path towards the Blessing. On October 3, 1976, Reverend Moon is quoted saying "The international Blessing developed by the Unification Church is not a wedding which is limited to only Unification Church members. This is the official course that all human beings must pass through. We should clearly understand this fact."[4]

The basic process for children who grew up in the church and others who want to get married is described in their official website.[16] There, it also describes the training and workshops one must go through to understand the value of the Blessing, become candidates and learn why marriage is the key for building God's Kingdom. Adult Unificationists and Blessed Children can receive support from either their parents or their matching advisors as they prepare for the matching and the Blessing. Married couples can go through marriage enhancement workshops after being Blessed.

Ceremonial practices

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The traditional steps for completing the sanctity of the blessing ceremony is the following:[17]

  1. The Chastening Ceremony. The couple strike each other on the backside three times using a wooden stick to symbolically make an end to sin and prepare for a new beginning. [18]
  2. The Holy Wine Ceremony. The couple share a cup of Holy Wine (or grape juice) symbolizing their engrafting into God's sinless lineage.
  3. The Holy Blessing Ceremony. The couple exchange vows. A prayer is offered by the officiators. The couple is sprinkled with holy water.
  4. The Separation Period. The couple refrains from having sexual relations for a period (most often 40 days, but in some cases much longer) before consummating or re-consummating their marriage.
  5. The Three Day Ceremony. The couple begins, or re-begins, their married life in a highly symbolic ceremony over three days which is considered to reverse the fall of Adam and Eve.

Couples taking part in Blessing ceremonies exchange these four vows:[19]

  1. To become a true man or woman who practices sexual purity and lives for the sake of others.
  2. To become a true husband or wife who respects True Parents' example and establishes an eternal family which brings joy to God.
  3. To become a parent who educates his or her children to follow the tradition of true love for the sake of the family and world.
  4. To create an ideal family which contributes to world peace.

Notable events

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In 1997, Rev. and Mrs. Moon presided over a Blessing ceremony in Washington, D. C., in which 28,000 of the 30,000 couples taking part were previously married,[7] including Baptist minister and civil rights advocate Al Sharpton and his wife Katherine.[20] A 2000 ceremony included couples in North Korea.[21] In a 2001 ceremony George Augustus Stallings, founder of the Imani Temple African-American Catholic Congregation, married Sayomi Kamimoto, a Japanese Unification Church member.[22] At the same ceremony was Minister Benjamin Muhammad, the national director of the Million Man March and the Million Family March and a representative of Louis Farrakhan's Nation of Islam.[23] Former Ugandan President Godfrey Binaisa married Tomoko Yamamoto, a 58-year-old Japanese woman during the Blessing ceremony in 2004. At that time, of the wedding, which took place remotely with Godfrey present over a satellite video link, he was 84 years old.[24] A Blessing Ceremony was held at Headquarters of the United Nations in 2000.[25][9]

Such weddings proved to be happy, according to scientific research.[26][27] "Whatever anyone wants to say about the Unification Church, the marital aspect seems to work," said Robert Epstein, a research psychologist.[28] The Unification Church teaches that romantic love leads to sexual promiscuity, mismatched couples and dysfunctional societies.[29][30]

The Unification Church affected the demographic map of mono-ethnic Korea due to its Blessing Ceremony.[31] South Korea has an acute problem of gender imbalance. Consequently, there is a large shortage of marriageable women. More than half of female immigrants from the Philippines, Thailand and other countries came to Korea due to the Unification Church and less than 20% through marriage agencies.[32]

In 2009, a blessing ceremony for 7,000 couples was attended by the Vice Speaker of the National Assembly of the Republic of Korea and by the daughter of the late President Park Chung Hee.[33] She said: "I join in a trans-religious spirit. I like the Unification Church way of interpreting the Bible, incorporating the Quran and Buddhist scripts".[34]

Reaction

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Moon's practice of matching couples was very unusual in both Christian tradition and in modern Western culture and attracted much attention and controversy.[35] Members of some churches have expressed concerns that people of their churches taking part in Blessing ceremonies might join the Unification Church.[36] In 1998, journalist Peter Maass reported that some Unification Church members were dismayed and grumbled when Moon extended the Blessing to non-members because they had not gone through the same course that members had.[37]

In 2001, the Unification Church came into conflict with the Roman Catholic Church when 71-year-old Catholic archbishop Emmanuel Milingo and Maria Sung, a 43-year-old Korean acupuncturist, married in a Unification Church Blessing ceremony, presided over by Moon and his wife. Following his marriage, the archbishop was called to the Vatican by Pope John Paul II, where he was asked not to see his wife anymore and to move to a Capuchin monastery.[38] Sung went on a hunger strike to protest their separation. This attracted much media attention.[39] Milingo is now an advocate of the removal of the requirement for celibacy by priests in the Catholic Church. He is the founder of Married Priests Now!.[40]

The Blessing ceremony figured in the plot of Don DeLillo's 1991 novel Mao II.[41] In 2007, the British television network Channel 4 aired a documentary film by Ulster producer Brian Henry Martin's Doubleband Films, entitled My Big Fat Moonie Wedding, about some of the participants in the 1982 Blessing ceremony of over 2,000 couples which took place in Madison Square Garden.[42][43][44]

In his 2009 autobiography, Tahoe Boy: A Journey Back Home, Pat Hickey, a state representative in Nevada and former member of the Unification Church of the United States who took part in the same ceremony, wrote about his experience of being matched to his future wife by Moon.[45][46][47]

In 2012, British Producer Firecracker Films produced a television documentary on second-generation Unification Church couples who attended a Blessing ceremony in Korea entitled Married to the Moonies. It was broadcast on Channel 4 and later on TLC in the United States under the title Mass Moon Wedding.[48][49]

See also

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References

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  1. ^ a b Elijah Siegler, 2007, New Religious Movements, Prentice Hall, ISBN 0131834789, p. 33.
  2. ^ "The Words of Frank Kaufmannn". www.tparents.org.
  3. ^ Eugene V. Gallagher, 2004, The New Religious Movement Experience in America, Greenwood Press, ISBN 0313328072, page 58.
  4. ^ a b "Perfection and Gratitude - Sun Myung Moon". tparents.org.
  5. ^ This website is not in use yet – Domain hosted by Gigahost Duddy, Neil Interview: Dr. Mose Durst] Archived September 28, 2007, at the Wayback Machine
  6. ^ MARRIAGE BY THE NUMBERS; MOON PRESIDES AS 6,500 COUPLES WED IN S. KOREA Archived October 8, 2008, at the Wayback Machine Peter Maass The Washington Post October 31, 1988
  7. ^ a b "Mass Moonie Marriage in the US". BBC News. 29 November 1997. Retrieved 9 March 2023.
  8. ^ Hadjimatheou, Chloe (28 June 2012). "Moon wedding: Getting married with 4,000 others". BBC News. Retrieved 9 March 2023.
  9. ^ a b Eng, Monica; Jackson, David (25 May 2006). "Despite controversy, Moon and his church moving into mainstream -- chicagotribune.com". Chicago Tribune. Archived from the original on 25 July 2008. Retrieved 8 March 2023. The church's most spectacular rite remains mass weddings, which the church calls the way "fallen men and women can be engrafted into the true lineage of God."
  10. ^ a b Murphy, Caryle; Wheeler, Linda (30 November 1997). "WashingtonPost.com: The Cult Controversy". Washington Post. Retrieved 8 March 2023. Church and stadium officials estimated that more than 40,000 people, mostly couples, attended the event, including the Moon-matched couples who took their marriage vows on the football field and exchanged gold rings displaying the church symbol. Those couples, however, must still fulfill whatever requirements exist where they live to be considered legally married.
  11. ^ a b The Associated Press (30 November 1997). "28,000 Couples Gather for Rev. Moon Rites". The New York Times. Retrieved 8 March 2023. The real weddings were held later in separate legal ceremonies.
  12. ^ a b Henneberger, Melinda (22 September 1992). "A Look at Life After Mass Marriage; For 2,075 Couples (Give or Take 200), 10 Years Together, Thanks to Sun Myung Moon". The New York Times. Retrieved 21 June 2013.
  13. ^ From the Unification Church to the Unification Movement, 1994-1999: Five Years of Dramatic Changes Massimo Introvigne, Center for Studies on New Religions "The ceremony in Washington, D.C., included six "co-officiators" from other faiths, including controversial minister Louis Farrakhan from the Nation of Islam. The Blessing ceremony in Seoul on February 7, 1999 also featured seven co-officiators including Orthodox Rabbi Virgil Kranz (Chairman of the American Jewish Assembly), controversial Catholic Archbishop Emmanuel Milingo and the General Superintendent of the Church of God in Christ (a large African American Pentecostal denomination), Rev. T.L. Barrett."
  14. ^ Children of Moon church's mass-wedding age face a crossroads, The Washington Post, January 3, 2009
  15. ^ "Matching and Blessing". FFWPU USA. Retrieved February 25, 2014.
  16. ^ "Blessing & Family Ministry". Blessing & Family Ministry.
  17. ^ Introduction to the Blessing Ceremony Archived 2006-06-13 at the Wayback Machine Official website of the United States Unification Church.
  18. ^ John Dehlin and Steven Hassan, Mormon Stories Podcast, "Joining and Leaving the Moonies/Unification Church - Cult Expert Dr. Steven Hassan | Ep. 1743 Archived 2024-05-11 at the Wayback Machine Dehlin, John (Host), Mormon Stories Podcast, episode 1753. “Joining and Leaving the Moonies/Unification Church - Cult Expert Dr. Steven Hassan | Ep. 1743.” Mentioned at timestamp 1:17:27. Streamed live on 2023-03-16.
  19. ^ Massimo Introvigne, From the Unification Church to the Unification Movement, 1994-1999: Five Years of Dramatic Changes, 1999, Center for Studies on New Religions
  20. ^ Firestone, David (September 12, 1997). "Sharpton in Ceremonies Of Unification Church". The New York Times.
  21. ^ Moonies join hands across the border, The Guardian, 2000-02-10
  22. ^ moreorless. "Mons. Milingo's and Archbishop Stallings' Weddings". www.cesnur.org.
  23. ^ "Archbishop Faces Excommunication After Marrying". www.beliefnet.com.
  24. ^ Ex-Uganda leader weds by satellite, BBC News
  25. ^ "CSD Uppsala – Uppsala Centre for Sustainable Development is an interdisciplinary centre that aims to be a catalyst for research and education on sustainable development as well as a place for students and researchers. The centre is a collaboration between Uppsala University and the Swedish University of Agricultural Sciences, SLU" (PDF). www.csduppsala.uu.se.
  26. ^ Van, Jon (October 26, 1986). "Moon's Marriages Prove To Be Happy". Chicago Tribune.
  27. ^ KARRIS GOLDEN For the Courier (2012-04-20). "Unification Church arranged marriages surprisingly strong". Wcfcourier.com. Retrieved 2012-05-23.
  28. ^ "Does love last longer in arranged marriages?". USA Today. Retrieved 2024-01-23.
  29. ^ "Does love last longer in arranged marriages? Daniel Burke, USA Today". USA Today.
  30. ^ "Unificationists tout arranged marriage". mySA. May 25, 2012.
  31. ^ "외국인 아내가 외국인 남편의 7배 : 사회 : 뉴스 : 동아닷컴". News.donga.com. 2009-08-06. Archived from the original on 2012-07-12. Retrieved 2012-05-23.
  32. ^ Unknown[permanent dead link‍]
  33. ^ Kim, Eun-ji (2010-02-17). ""국경·인종 초월 참사랑으로 하나되길"". Segye Ilbo. News World Communications. Retrieved 2020-02-22.
  34. ^ Sang-Hun, Choe (October 15, 2009). "At Time of Change for Rev. Moon Church, a Return to Tradition". The New York Times.
  35. ^ The men and women entered a large room, where Moon began matching couples by pointing at them."NY Daily News "In the Unification tradition, romantic liaisons are forbidden until the members are deemed by Mr. Moon to be spiritually ready to be matched at a huge gathering where he points future spouses out to one another. His followers believe that his decisions are based on his ability to discern their suitability and see their future descendants. Many are matched with people of other races and nationalities, in keeping with Mr. Moon's ideal of unifying all races and nations in the Unification Church. Though some couples are matched immediately before the mass wedding ceremonies, which are held every two or three years, most have long engagements during which they are typically posted in different cities or even continents, and get to know one another through letters."NY Times "Many were personally matched by Moon, who taught that romantic love led to sexual promiscuity, mismatched couples and dysfunctional societies. Moon's preference for cross-cultural marriages also meant that couples often shared no common language."Manchester Guardian "Moon’s death Sept. 2 and funeral Saturday signaled the end of the random pairings that helped make Moon’s Unification Church famous — and infamous — a generation ago." Washington Post "Many of the couples who married at mass weddings were hand-picked by Moon from photos. It led to some strange pairs such as a 71-year-old African Catholic archbishop who wed a 43-year-old Korean acupuncturist. In 1988 Moon entered the Guinness Book of Records when he married 6,516 identically dressed couples at Seoul’s Olympic Stadium. Moonie newly-weds were forbidden to sleep together for 40 days to prove their marriage was on a higher plane. They then had to consummate their marriage in a three-day ritual with the sexual positions stipulated by their leader."Daily Mirror
  36. ^ excerpt Archived May 13, 2008, at the Wayback Machine The Unification Church Studies in Contemporary Religion, Massimo Introvigne, 2000, Signature Books, Salt Lake City, Utah, ISBN 1-56085-145-7 "From a different perspective, it is true that participation of people who are not members of the Unification Church in certain Unificationist activities, such as marriage blessings, may be of concern to established churches. They perceive the possibility that their own members may become confused by their participation in such Unificationist activities and fear that they may in fact end up converting to Unificationism." -p59-60
  37. ^ Moon at Twilight Archived 2001-04-11 at the Wayback Machine, Peter Maass, The New Yorker "The campaign has dismayed some church members, because a blessing from Moon used to be a hard-won privilege, typically attained only after a person had joined the church, worked in it for several years, and agreed to marry someone--usually a stranger--selected by Moon. But grumblings about the blessing campaign are just the beginning of Moon's current troubles."
  38. ^ moreorless. "Archbishop rejects Vatican ultimatum". www.cesnur.org.
  39. ^ "The archbishop's wife speaks for herself", National Catholic Reporter August 31, 2001
  40. ^ "Archbishop launches married priests movement". Archived from the original on December 22, 2007.
  41. ^ "Dangerous Don DeLillo", May 19, 1991 The New York Times
  42. ^ My Big Fat Moonie Wedding, Channel 4, December 5, 2007
  43. ^ My Big Fat Moonie Wedding[permanent dead link‍], The Mirror, December 5, 2007
  44. ^ My Big Fat Moonie Wedding[permanent dead link‍], The London Paper, December 5, 2007
  45. ^ Nevadan recounts his life as wandering son, Las Vegas Review-Journal, December 15, 2009
  46. ^ Susan Skorupa, "Memoir recalls writer's life in area religion", Reno Gazette-Journal, July 26, 2009
  47. ^ Hickey back in Assembly after 14-year hiatus, Las Vegas Review-Journal, January 17, 2010
  48. ^ Zodiak Rights sells Moonies Gypsy weddings, Real Screen 2012-7-21
  49. ^ WATCH: An Inside Look At Mass Weddings Of The Unification "Moonies" Church, Huffington Post, 2012-7-8
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